Feelings…Me? or Holy Spirit?

Romans 8:13-15 NIV “for if you are living according to the flesh, you must die; but if by the Spirit you are putting to death the deeds of the body, you will live.  For all who are being led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.  For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba!  Father!”

Isaiah 55:8 NIV “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, “ declares the Lord.


Have you ever noticed that we live according to how we feel?  If we want something – it is usually motivated by a feeling.  When we want to express ourselves in a positive or negative way, it is driven by a feeling.   How we respond to people, is usually based on a feeling.   Feelings can sway us one way or another.  We like something or we don’t …so we act out of it!

How long have you lived your life based on how you feel?  Most of us would likely respond by saying,  “most of my life”.   Are feelings bad?   NO…but they need to be submitted to God – because when we  just feel and act we may not be aligned with God’s ways.   It’s OK to have feelings, and it’s OK to have disappointment or sadness initially – It is the words and actions that follow that indicate where our source comes from!  Just sayin’  J

We do not have to be subject to our feelings!!!  They do not have to control everything we do and say.  We are to be guided by God’s thoughts and His ways, by the Holy Spirit…so our only gauge would be what He is doing and what He is saying.

Let me explain:

We see  cycles in our lives that repeat  over and over again.  We ask God – “What do you want to change in me? How do I shift?”  An example may be, we are disappointed, we become paralyzed with sadness or fear, we then think about it, about  the other person and what they did to us.  Our thoughts amplify until we feel we are in a whirlwind.  We want to run away, we begin to mistrust…eventually it does calm down but we haven’t necessarily worked it out.   SO,  when we experience the feeling  again, and see the cycle repeating itself– we think, “here we go again!”  Almost immediately we will respond out of the whirlwind by running away, or shutting people and situations out of our lives –  because we want to avoid the feeling!

When are feeling disappointment or fear or anger we say to ourselves words that are based on our feelings, “See, they did it again”  “You can’t trust anyone”  “don’t bother trying”  “its not worth it”  “I’m better off without them”

Let’s face it…we WILL have feelings and they may not be so great.   So what do we do?  How do we capture it and make it subject to the word of God.

The message bible says it this way, “The world is unprincipled.  It’s dog-eat-dog out there! The world doesn’t fight fair.  But we don’t live or fight our battles that way – never have and never will.  The tools of our trade aren’t for marketing or manipulation, but they are for demolishing that entire massively corrupt culture.  We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ.  Our tools are ready at hand for clearing the ground of every obstruction and building lives of obedience into maturity.” 2 Corinthians 10:3-6

WE have to step outside us and what WE think and ask God.  “ How do you want me to respond? What are you saying?”  This is maturity in action!  “For all who are being led by the Spirit of God, these are the sons of God.”  Rom 8:14

What can we do?

#1  Repent:

  •  From  judgements we make in the moment about a      person or situation,
  • From allowing our feelings      to control our actions – This is “putting      to death the deeds of the body”…Rom 8:13

#2  Ask Holy Spirit for His understanding, His purpose, and His feelings…

  • You may need to press in,  spend some time in worship to clear your thoughts and receive HS thoughts
  • Speak in language of Holy  Spirit –

“Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness.  For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groaning too deep for words.”  Rom 8:26 ESV

#3  Respond according to what He shows you.   Anything that does not include love, joy and peace may not be His feelings!!!

#4  Speak the word of truth that He gives you into and over the situation…you will have to tell yourself something different than  what you have been listening to…and you may have to do it over and over again…

One day I had to go through my house, declaring the truth, because what I was seeing and hearing I didn’t like.  The atmosphere was charged with confusion and arguments.   When I realized we were on this treadmill I did not want it to continue!  So I stood up to it – declaring the word of truth.  When I reflected back I realized that things were not the same…There had been a shift!!   The arguments were subdued, miscommunication was being solved! Our home was covered with more love, joy and peace!

God is pleased with a heart that desires and pursues Him.   There is grace for this healing process– you will get to try again!  Give yourself grace, forgive yourself and move on.   Try again, ask HS to be your guide –…even if you don’t get it right the first time, or the second time…or maybe even the third time…  J  understand, you are getting it.  He is perfecting His word in you!

“Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ”  Phil 1:6


Colossians 3:2-4  MSG “Keep your mind on things above, not on worldly things.  You have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.  Christ is your life.  When he appears, then you too, will appear with him glory.”